|Andrew with another student.|
Thursday, May 5, 2016
Autism and Swimming; Confronting an Epidemic
As a parent of three kids 6 and under (one of them having autism), summer activities involving water have made me uncomfortable for years. Unless it was a splash pad or a pool with only a foot of water we pretty much just avoided it. Even in a few inches of water in the bathtub I would hover within arm’s reach and give constant reminders, “Don’t put your face by the water” or “No standing you could slip.” As we started to see how much our son with autism enjoyed the water we knew spending a summer avoiding pools and lakes was doing him a disservice. It was doing them all a disservice but with three of them and two of us we felt pretty limited. Compounding my fear of my autistic son drowning were the staggering statistics of how many in the autism community lose their lives to water. In 2012, the National Autism Association reported that accidental drowning accounted for 91% of the total U.S. deaths reported in children with an Autism Spectrum Disorder ages 14 and younger subsequent to wandering/elopement. With the many deaths in recent years due to drowning, I assume that percentage has only grown.
I knew we needed swim classes for all of the kids, but I also knew that finding someone to work with and be successful teaching a kiddo with autism would be difficult, if not impossible. We recently moved to the DC area and I heard about Sensory Swim, a program specifically for autistic and sensory challenged individuals. When I spoke on the phone with Andrew and Mary (Sensory Swim’s owners and founders) I asked about a million questions and tried to calm my nerves by understanding their methodology and safety measures. I found out they both had a background in special education and after seeing a demand and need for effective swim classes for our community had decided to apply their knowledge and skill sets to teach our kids how to swim.
We signed up and took the plunge. I watched as my typical son took typical swim lessons alongside our son with autism and was pleasantly surprised by how different Sensory Swim’s methods were from regular private instruction. They started in the deep end and let him get a feel for treading water. With only a few feet between the two of them they would propel him into the direction of the other so he could get the feel of moving forward without being able to touch the bottom. They didn’t try to explain to him how to hold his breath or how to kick his legs. They SHOWED him everything they expected him to do. And to keep him motivated and working each time they would lift him up high and spin him or make huge waves to make him laugh. He would get positive reinforcement every time he imitated what they showed him.
I watched my older son and realized none of the methods the typical swim school was using with him would have worked for our autistic kiddo. He would not have understood the demands put on him and he would have not had enough motivation or silliness to stay engaged. Seeing how hands on Sensory Swim was and how well he responded, a lot of my fear dissipated. And although I know we have a ways to go, seeing him put his head under water without anxiety and watching him know how to hold his breath now are BIG first steps. Watching him get about six feet now doggy paddling on his own, I am hopeful that the goal of him swimming and staying safe if he were to get in the water on his own is within reach.
And as I have watched these successes and milestones and just how happy he is in the water, part of me is aching. We need more. We need access. We need every autistic child and adult in this country to have the chance to learn how to swim. So I sat down with Sensory Swim’s founders and talked to them about how we could make it a reality and what parents can do if they do not have access to a program designed for autistic, nonverbal, and/or sensory challenged kids.
“The most important thing we do is gain the child’s trust. We get that connection with them,” Andrew explained. “About seventy percent of our students have been instructed somewhere else before us and have this traumatic experience of being forced below water before they were ready. It takes a lot for us to undo that trauma.”
Although some organizations are pushing for funding for swimming lessons for autistic children Sensory Swim’s concern is that most of the money is going to swim schools not necessarily trained in how to handle or actually teach special needs kids. They recounted a number of conversations they have had with instructors at other swim schools in which they were shocked to discover the goal was never to get the child to learn how to swim. These programs admitted they do not know how to communicate to our kids to teach them so they just let them enjoy the water and learning to swim is rarely the outcome.
As the demand for Sensory Swim lessons increases, Andrew and Mary have continued traveling and teaching teachers their effective methods. They want more schools to be focused on actually teaching our kids how to swim. “We will tell swim schools and teachers and parents all of our methods all day long. It’s not a big secret. We would be happy if effective special need swim lessons were all over the country as long as they worked.” For now, Sensory Swim is only available in Maryland and Virginia and they travel to each location on different days of the week. They are looking into expanding and hiring on additional teachers, while ensuring safety, quality and effectiveness remain the highest priorities in their program.
Because not everyone has access to effective special needs swim lessons, I asked Mary how she felt was the best way to overcome the child’s fear and for tips on how parents can best teach their autistic children how to swim. She explained, “Whether you are the parent or the swim teacher you have to validate their fear and anxiety. It is real. Acknowledge that it is scary to go under water, but say we can do it together. You just have to make the whole thing a shared experience. Get down to their level in the pool and try to experience it as they are experiencing it.”
She also emphasized the importance of teaching all safety-focused things first. Teach them to get to the side of the pool no matter what their method looks like. At that point it doesn’t matter if they are using correct strokes or whether or not they have the correct form. Let them sit on your knee and reach and propel towards the wall, allowing for more distance each time as they are ready.
One of the biggest obstacles to our children learning how to swim is our own fear and anxiety about our kids’ safety around water. That anxiety often transfers to the child and their apprehension to get into the water can be that much harder to get past. If we never expose them to water in a controlled environment, they will be clueless as to the dangers of water and what to do if, God forbid, they ever wander off and come upon a body of water or a pool by themselves.
We as a community are seriously failing at keeping our kids safe from wandering deaths. The dangers of elopement will always be there for many of our families, but getting past our own water anxiety as parents and making a commitment to teach all of our kids to swim can eliminate one risk that is killing so many.
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